It’s estimated that we receive a couple of minutes each year of positive feedback. Almost none of it is from ourselves. And when we receive it, we rarely let it in. Many people go weeks and months without positive feedback. Compare this to the thousands of hours each year of negative feedback we give ourselves and what we perceive from others.
If you want to transform your performance, here’s a new and positive approach. Ask yourself these questions when you have completed something you’re proud of:
- What did you do well?
- What are you most excited about?
- What did you learn about yourself in the process?
- How can you do more of it?
Pay attention to your accomplishments each day and the challenges you overcame. Choose something every day for at least five days to acknowledge yourself for. Then, move on to acknowledging other people. Notice what other people do and how they make a difference. Be as specific as possible.
Stopping to give yourself and others positive feedback is deeply rewarding. Not only will you and the people you acknowledge feel great, but your connection with yourself and others will deepen as a result.